Character vs. Reputation

Be MorE ConcerneD AbouT YouR CharacteR ThaN YouR Reputation BecausE YouR CharacteR Is WhO YoU ArE AnD YoUr ReputatioN Is WhaT OtherS ThinK Of YoU!


True enough! It is a given fact that we humans are very conscious and concerned about what others say. I see this like a ‘monster’ that eats our spirit. Why? Often than not we would find ourselves reacting the way people would want us to. Sad, because this hinders us from being happy, from being free. Understandably, freedom comes with great responsibility but how would you learn if you won’t take the risk, right?

It’s human a tendency I guess, that if they cannot find faults in the doings of the other they would then try t hurt the character by messing up with the person’s reputation. Indeed, in this we would see that we really can’t separate character from reputation however these two things should not be confused from the other. Character is your personal point of view of yourself while reputation is how people see you. This is the very reason why that we have to know ourselves better, ought to love ourselves coz’ if not we may probably follow the dictates of others without considering to what direction we really wanna go.

We ought to be more inclined in building and improving our character as that is US. Be more careful on how you perceive yourself; make sure you aren’t blinded of each situation and each relationship we get involve in. Self – Check every now and then really helps.

Another Letter

'By,

16 years ago we both walked on our own paths and did not hear much from each other. We have tried to live our lives to the fullest even without each other. You had such an impact on my being that nothing in my life has measured up or amounted to anything.Now, once again, you are back in my life and it is the most wonderful thing imaginable.

My every thought is of you and each time that I am able to speak with you draws me closer and closer to you. I must tell you that I have held you in my heart all these years and nothing has ever made me forget the love that we in one way or the other shared. I do not know what the future holds for us but I am thankful to God that He has brought you back into my life for the second chance.At any given time when you command it I will be there for you. Nothing else in this world matters as long as we can live the rest of our days together.

Love always,
Indigo

Individual Rights In Relationships

Many times we lose sight of what is happening between our partner and ourselves. Slowly the balance can shift and we have gone from being loved to being abused. One day you find yourself wondering if your expectations are too high, too low or off base entirely. Here is a list designed to assist you in answering the question of what is right and what is wrong.

HUMAN RIGHTS FOR WOMEN IN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS

• To share equally with your partner all decisions and responsibilities related to your relationship, children, home and finances.
  
• To have time to yourself.
  
• To privacy.
  
• To share equally with your mate in all financial decisions and to spend some money as you please.
  
• To grow and explore your potential without feeling guilty, selfish, or afraid and be allowed to do creative, challenging, absorbing, worthwhile work.
  
• To have friendships with both women and men outside of your relationship as long as you do not violate the privacy of your relationship with your partner and to choose who these friends will be.
  
• To express your opinions and have them given the same respect and consideration as those of your mate.
  
• To have and express your sexual needs and desires without feeling like you are selfish, demanding or aggressive and to decide whether or not to have sex.
  
• To have your emotional, physical and intellectual needs be as important as the needs of your mate.
  
• To expect your mate to give at least 50% effort to resolve difficulties in your relationship.
  To hold your mate responsible for her behavior rather than assuming that responsibility yourself.
  
• To seek professional help with your relationship.
  
• To NEVER be physically attacked or psychologically degraded by your mate and to terminate the relationship if either occurs.
  
• To be free from fear.
  
• To expect significant behavioral changes rather than apologies and promises from your partner if a single battering incident occurs.
  
• To not blame yourself if the relationship in which you have invested so much love ends.
  

So next time you are wondering if you are expecting too much, your partner is not offering enough or a combination thereof, take a look at this list. If nothing else, I would hope it will help you determine what action you need to take in order to achieve happiness in your life.

Until next time,

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5 Secrets to Staying In Love

5 Secrets to Staying In Love

by Jennifer Good

Just about everyone wants to know how they can make their relationship better. They want to know how they can deepen the commitment and love between each partner. Unfortunately relationships are not something you can provide a "to do" sheet for and all will be solved, but with these five key secrets you can certainly improve your chances for getting all you desire out of your relationship.

Do things unexpectedly.One key secret to a successful relationship is compromise. Meeting halfway on things shows your partner that you really do care about their viewpoint and you are willing to work on making each other happy. Every so often make it a point to do something that you normally would not agree to or feel like doing. When you keep your partner constantly surprised by your actions, you regenerate that "new love" feeling time and time again. So, when your partner asks if you want to try that new restaurant…say yes! If they ask if you want to try a new hobby…say yes!

Show your loyalty.Nothing strengthens a relationship quite like watching your partner go to bat for you, especially against close friends or family members. It shows that you consider your relationship a team. If you harass one member of a team, you harass them all. When you side with other people against your partner you make them feel alienated and the seeds of hidden resentment become planted. You can show loyalty positively as well by bragging about your partner's recent accomplishments to friends and family.

Be supportive.Challenges and opportunities are always going to occur. You can't stop them from happening. Hopefully for both of you the changes in your lives are positive ones. The secret key here is having a supporting and understanding mate in your corner to help you through your ups and downs. If you lose your job, it's quite a bit easier to bounce back when you have someone who's willing to support your choices and any new directions you might want to branch out to. If you want a career or lifestyle change, imagine the difference having someone who will carefully consider and support those changes? When your partner is presenting you with a challenge or an opportunity, treat them the way you'd want to be treated.

Maintain a healthy dose of individuality.Personal time and space are essential to growing individually. Everyone one needs private time to do the things they want to do. It helps refocus attention to the priorities. Sometimes you or your partner may just need time to release emotions from a bad day, instead of bringing it home with them. Learning to respect and notice when your partner needs some individual time shows that you are committed to not only your relationship, but their long-term happiness as well.

Love your partner.Love is obviously a crucial element in a successful long-term relationship. But having love isn't enough. You need to be in love. The phrase "love is a verb, not a noun" certainly applies here. Don't hesitate to write that quick love note, give that deep kiss, sit next to each other at a restaurant or hold hands in public. The little things go a long way towards establishing a deep, intimate connection with your partner. As simple as it sounds, this action is probably the most commonly overlooked and ignored.
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Just like Wine

Relish love in your old age! Aged love is like aged wine; it becomes more satisfying, more refreshing, more valuable, more appreciated and more intoxicating!

I may not be there during the highlights of her life but now that i have found my way back home(and am here to stay) I can always be the one who will be there for her, remind her of the things she tend to neglect(which often than not is HERSELF). a lot of things and people came and left but there's one thing that never did left both of us ---- the connection we've always had inside. We've bnoth tried so hard to fight it back but it all came back to us now with much stronger intensity.

There's a lot ahead of us now that we have to face with much courage and love in our hearts. May we find more reasons to stay together and for once be happy. No one said this would be easy but continuous effort would make it eventually easier.

An Open Letter

'By,

The best part of each day is knowing that you are by my side and
i will be sharing the day with you.

I have never known someone and still become excited that there
is more to discover. I hold dear to my heart quiet days spent
together.

When you came into my life my whole world changed. I suddenly
undestood the meaning of contentment and true happiness. The
kindness and affection that you have given me has been a
foundation of love that will be cherished for all the years to
come.

I know there are ups and downs in any relationship. There are
times that are different. But i know, that any situation will
endure the test of time with a love as rare as ours.
For all the yesterdays that you filled with special memories,
and for all the todays you will fill with your strength,support
and joy,i will always love you! I will always stay by your
side. If time comes you decide you wanna spread your wings and
eventually realized that you've made a wrong turn in your
journey, I will be at the next curve waiting for you.

Longing for you,

Indigo

Your Choice

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." - - - Albert Einstein (1879-1955)

Life is a God given gift that we all ought to cherish. But life on the other hand God opted to give us the power to choose how we want to direct it. Life is a choice it's really up to you how to live it up. Some choose to enjoy every moment of it freely, while others would rather spend it as careful as they may.

You may not have all the time in this world to do everything you really want but we are all given ample time to think and spend it the way we choose to. This is the very reason why we have to put in mind that we have to live life to the fullest whenever,wherever. What ever can be done today must be done today.

If you love a person,take time..chill out and tell her. Make her feel as special as she really is. There are a lot of things that may bump your way but if it's really love that you got in there there's no way you can be wrong. People may see it on a different hue, we may not change how they see it but what matters is how you both see each other. Make each other happy and bwala...

LOVE IS IN THE AIR!

Stick Wit Chu

Stickwitu
By Pussycat Dolls

I don't wanna go another day
So I'm telling you exactly what is on my mind
Seems like everybody's breaking up
And throwing their love away
But I know I got a good thing right here
That's why I say (Hey)

Nobody gonna love me better
I must stickwitu
Forever
Nobody gonna take me higher
I must stickwitu
You know how to 'preciate me
I must stickwitu
My baby
Nobody ever made me feel this way
I must stickwitu

I don't wanna go another day
So I'm telling you exactly what is on my mind
See the way we ride
In our private lives
Ain't nobody getting in between
I want you to know that you're the only one for me
And I say

Nobody gonna love me better
I must stickwitu
Forever
Nobody gonna take me higher
I must stickwitu
You know how to 'preciate me
I must stickwitu
My baby
Nobody ever made me feel this way
I must stickwitu

And now
Ain't nothing else I could need
And now
I'm singing 'cause you're so, so into me
I got you
We'll be making love endlessly
I'm with you
Baby, you're with me

So don't you worry about
People hanging around
They ain't bringing us down
I know you and you know me
And that's all that counts
So don't you worry about
People hanging around
They ain't bringing us down
I know you and you know me
And that's why I say(Hey)

Nobody gonna love me better
I must stickwitu
Forever
Nobody gonna take me higher
I must stickwitu
You know how to 'preciate me
I must stickwitu
My baby
Nobody ever made me feel this way
I must stickwitu

Nobody gonna love me better
I must stickwitu
Forever
Nobody gonna take me higher
I must stickwitu
You know how to 'preciate me
I must stickwitu
My baby
Nobody ever made me feel this way
I must stickwitu




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Fear me not!

Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what I saw, of
what I did, of who I am. And most of all, I'm scared of walking out of this room
and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I'm with
you.

from the classic movie DIRTY DANCING

FEAR-That which causes, or which is the object of, apprehension or alarm; source or occasion of terror; danger; dreadfulness.

By nature, human beings often times feel this. It's an over powering emotion that often than not control how a person behaves and respond to his/her environment. You cannot dictate people what they should say or do but you can definitely make it work and make it happen only if you believe in yourself. Most, if not all, have fear of losing the person they love that's the very reason some tend to be stiff and end up losing grip of themselves.

Is True Love REAL?

Is true love real, or is it just a story to make people believe in something...???

Often times I think about this, is true love real or just a wonderful story we all love to hear? When can we really exactly say that it's true love? As often defined, true love is when you selflessly and freely give away yourself to the other person without asking anything in return. True love is something that just struck you unguarded. Some say it's something you don't look for but would just come to you when the right time comes.

But the question remains, is it just a story that we all want to believe in? We all have different interpretations and varying opinions on this but as for me, I would say that LOVE is TRUE when you know that you are you whenever you're with that person. LOVE is TRUE when you know that inspite all the differences you are still happy with the person.

There are a lot of ways to say we are truly inlove but only you can say who TRUE LOVE is for you... I can easily describe love in 5 letters that my heart would understand as TRUE..

K - A - R - E - N

Choose Your Path

When one door closes, Another one opens, Sometimes We look so long at the closed door, We don't see the one that has opened!

Life is a matter of choice. As the famous cliche goes, "life is a box of chocolate you won't know what you'll get next." Life's a risk and it's really up to you how you would take each risk.

Life is so beautiful to pass on. You ought to enjoy every moment you can with the one you want. Take one step at a time and you'll see that everything would be alright.

Try not to live up to your past,everyday is a new beginning and must be taken as they come.

The princess

Everyone needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back....

Quote by Princess Diana.

This is a quote from a 'born' princess. Diana wasn't born and wasn't in any way raised as a princess but she did became one when she married Prince Charles. Which by the way hasn't been an easy marriage. They seem to had everything infront of the people and infront of the cameras but their hearts have been a witness of life's cruelty. They had to live up to the expectations of other people, take the dictates of the royal crown.

Same goes to this princess, she needs to be valued. She needs to be considered and loved. Time, chances have passed for her to feel her real worth but now the crown is set forth...she will be loved,adored and most of all taken cared for. All the things that she have selflessly given to the people around her would in one way or the other be given back.

Life and love may not always be the same as we expect them to be, but once freely given rest assured that this world be a better place to live in.

Just For Her

This is blog site intended just for her. An online pouring of emotion just for the princess that she is. Everyone is welcome to look around and comment..hmm...go ahead!

Behind the Name,KAREN

"What is in a name? A rose by another name is still a rose."

Origin and Meaning of the Name Karen

The girl's name Karen is pronounced KARE-en. It is of Danish origin. Short form of Katherine (Greek) "pure."

Karen is a very popular female first name, ranking 13 out of 4275 for females of all ages in the 1990 U.S. Census. Karen is a well-used surname, ranking 35496 out of 88799 for people of all ages in the 1990 U.S. Census.
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